The Dread of Starting Your Cycle (again!)

It's so hard to get the cramps and then start bleeding when you were so hoping that this would be the month. The month when you didn't get your period and you could take a pregnancy test and actually have it be positive.

It's hard. A woman can feel like a failure when she wants to be pregnant and she gets her menses instead.

That disappointed, sad, hormonal state is a tough one. It's not an easy state to be "talked down" from. The state, the feelings, the despair usually shifts in a few days.

Then it's back to the drawing board. This can be be fatiguing month in and month out. I have just two things to share with you:

1) As a woman, you are NOT a failure for having blood instead of a baby. You are a woman who is doing what the female body is designed to do every month. If a woman begins her menstrual cycle at age 14 and bleeds until she's 54, that is 40 years of cycles or 480 potential cycles. It only takes one to get pregnant. Thus, every cycle you have does not mean you're a failure, it means you're a woman. A woman who continues to prepare herself for the month when she is aligned with fertility and conception.
2) If you can shift your focus to the result of conception being a matter of when and not if. Then it will matter less if cycles show up in between now and when. This can potentially release you from the roller coaster of hope and despair each month you start your cycle.

It doesn't mean it's easy to do this. But it is possible, much more serving, and easier to pass the time until you conceive arrives.

Fertile Blessings,

Laurie Morse, L.Ac.
www.myfertilitysuccess.com